A steady stream of children took one look at the fun outdoors this past Saturday and decided the Super Kitty Fourth Birthday Party for Molly James was immune to the bitter cold and wind. The Bounce House in the backyard was an invitation to freedom from well-meaning parents who made efforts to encourage them to wear coats with little success.
Molly seen climbing to the slide while Ella explained her rules
one brave mother tried to manage the chaosin the cold
Molly (L) and her best friend came inside to check out food
Molly’s mom, Caroline, made the birthday cake, planned the party,
made memories for her daughter thatwill last forever
Gigi and John watched as Mollyand friends inspected new stroller
Nana on secret mission for more chicken nuggets
let them eat cake – and they did
Molly not interested in sharing her birthday cake or her Super Kitty candle from cake
Molly was Queen of the Party and loved opening her gifts
Big Sister Ella kept a watchful eye
Ella so happy to see her friend, Thomas…
…so happy she picked him up!
oh, look! it’s a Super Kitty!
Super Kitty Molly with her friend Charlie and her dog Sadie
meow, meow, meow – I am Su-Purr Charged and Su-Purr Wild!
and now I’m also FOUR years old
The birthday party was a fun time for us on a day that we needed to celebrate hope for the future of our Molly who saw herself as a superhero – someone that went into the world creating good and righting wrongs. May she always have the courage and strength to keep those goals in sight wherever life takes her. She is already a superhero to her Nana and Naynay.
If you remember Eugene O’neill’s American tragedy, The Iceman Cometh, you might have been in a high school drama class in the 1960s in West Columbia, Texas, with a teacher who believed O’neill’s work was brilliant. O’neill in her opinion belonged in the same conversation with Tennessee Williams, Lillian Hellman, and Thornton Wilder. Mrs. Juanita Roberts had fiery red hair cut in a pixie and always let her class chat quietly for a few minutes before the bell rang to end class so that she could race to the teachers’ lounge for a smoke. Those were the days, my friend, we thought they’d never end.
Today the state of South Carolina where Pretty and I live has been deemed by the governor to be in the grips of another Iceman who is controlled by Mother Nature and promises to create a nightmare for the entire state. The governor has declared a state of emergency throughout the weekend. Wintry mix, freezing rain, and snow will be the culprits, but the largest blow in the forecast is the ice that will cover everything when the rainfall freezes in places predicted by American meteorologists in whatever model they use to foretell Mother Nature’s fancies.
calm before the storm – looking across the street at naked trees
Pretty made the blue bottle tree in our front yard
our big oak tree in the back yard before the Iceman Cometh
Mother Nature will have her final timing for the Iceman and/or the Weather Person; but for now we cross our fingers that everyone will be safe and that any birthday parties planned for Saturday morning can be continued as scheduled.
The young man in the center of this 1969 family picture was James Paul Boring born November 6, 1953, died December 22, 2025. The picture spoke to the love that surrounded James from his two older sisters, two younger brothers, father and mother – a love that followed him throughout his journey from birth in the town of Navasota, Texas, to his passing. He was survived by his four siblings and predeceased by his parents, Charles J. and Mildred P. Boring. Charlie and my mother were brother and sister. James’s mother, Mildred, and my mother were good friends in addition to being sisters-in-law.
Our grandmother Bernice Louise Schlinke Boring with James and his two older sisters, Nancy and Charlotte, in August, 1956
Thanksgiving, 2025, James (second from left)
Sisters Charlotte and Nancy, brothers Martin and Dennis, niece Alison
James and his family formed an important part of my childhood in Richards, twenty miles from their home in Navasota. We celebrated holidays together as extended families did in those mid-twentieth century years. Gradually, as we left the teenage years, we saw less and less of each other’s aunts, uncles, and cousins. The passing of our grandmother in 1972 removed the cornerstone that had kept us together as families. Marriages, new births, college educations, careers became the focus for us. Sadly, I lost touch with my family when I chose to leave Texas and relocate a thousand miles away from home.
I had a second chance with James and his brothers when my mother was very ill with dementia from 2010 until her death in 2012. James, Martin, and Dennis still lived in Navasota; Pretty and I bought a home near them in Montgomery from 2010-2014. Our lives had become more complicated as adults, of course, but remembering good times as children made the laughs easy to come by when James and I were making plum jelly in our kitchen on Worsham Street, the music from his guitar sweeter than the homemade plum jelly when he played on our front porch in the summertime, and the domino games the most competitive ever in the cold Texas winters.
Rest in peace, James. I will miss you.
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On January 02, 2026, Reginald Lynn Boring died at his home in Cordova, Tennessee, at the age of 82. Like his second cousin James Paul, he was the oldest son of five children with two sisters and two brothers.
Reggie, standing, top right
survived by sisters Nita (standing) and Diane,
brothers Wayne and Howie (not pictured)
predeceased by father C.H. Boring and mother Gertrude Dostal
Visits with Reggie and his family were sporadic when we were growing up since the distance from Grimes County to Ft. Bend County where they lived wasn’t an easy drive in the 1950s, but we had fun whenever we got together. I loved my Rosenberg cousins.
Our visits as adults were even more sporadic because neither Reggie nor Nita nor I stayed inside the Texas borders at the same time as we got older. In 2008, however, Nita, Reggie and I reconnected to plan a Boring family reunion in Austin. My, oh my, what fun did we have! Time hadn’t stood still, but it definitely froze that day while we rediscovered our roots.
Reggie regaled us with stories – he even made Sonny smile!
(note name tags we all had to wear since we didn’t look quite the sameas we had when we were childrenplus a few new ones)
Reggie Boring
(May 04, 1943 – January 02, 2026)
Rest in peace, Reggie. I will miss you.
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Mildred (Charlie’s wife), C.H. Boring, and Charlie Boring
Hear ye, hear ye – all who have ears to hear, listen to the words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., in his Letter from a Birmingham Jail where he had been imprisoned for his participation in nonviolent protests. The year was 1963, and Dr. King wrote in longhand the letter which follows in his response to a public statement of concern and caution issued by eight white religious leaders of the South. Dr. King, who was born in 1929, did his undergraduate work at Morehouse College; attended the integrated Crozer Theological Seminary in Chester, Pennsylvania, one of six black pupils among a hundred students, and the president of his class; he won a fellowship to Boston University for his Ph.D.
“But even if the church does not come to the aid of justice, I have no despair about the future. I have no fear about the outcome of our struggle in Birmingham, even if our motives are at present misunderstood. We will reach the goal of freedom in Birmingham and all over the nation, because the goal of America is freedom. Abused and scorned though we may be, our destiny is tied up with America’s destiny. Before the pilgrims landed at Plymouth, we were here. Before the pen of Jefferson etched the majestic words of the Declaration of Independence across the pages of history, we were here. For more than two centuries our forebears labored in this country without wages; they made cotton king; they built the homes of their masters while suffering gross injustice and shameful humiliation -and yet out of a bottomless vitality they continued to thrive and develop. If the inexpressible cruelties of slavery could not stop us, the opposition we now face will surely fail. We will win our freedom because the sacred heritage of our nation and the eternal will of God are embodied in our echoing demands.
We know through painful experience that freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed. Frankly, I have never yet engaged in a direct-action movement that was “well timed” according to the timetable of those who have not suffered unduly from the disease of segregation. For years now I have heard the word “wait.” It rings in the ear of every Negro with a piercing familiarity. This “wait” has almost always meant “never.”
It has been a tranquilizing thalidomide, relieving the emotional stress for a moment, only to give birth to an ill-formed infant of frustration. We must come to see with the distinguished jurist of yesterday that “justice too long delayed is justice denied.” We have waited for more than three hundred and forty years for our God-given and constitutional rights. The nations of Asia and Africa are moving with jetlike speed toward the goal of political independence, and we still creep at horse-and-buggy pace toward the gaining of a cup of coffee at a lunch counter. I guess it is easy for those who have never felt the stinging darts of segregation to say “wait.”
But when you have seen vicious mobs lynch your mothers and fathers at will and drown your sisters and brothers at whim; when you have seen hate-filled policemen curse, kick, brutalize, and even kill your black brothers and sisters with impunity; when you see the vast majority of your twenty million Negro brothers smothering in an airtight cage of poverty in the midst of an affluent society; when you suddenly find your tongue twisted and your speech stammering as you seek to explain to your six-year-old daughter why she cannot go to the public amusement park that has just been advertised on television, and see tears welling up in her little eyes when she is told that Funtown is closed to colored children, and see the depressing clouds of inferiority begin to form in her little mental sky, and see her begin to distort her little personality by unconsciously developing a bitterness toward white people; when you have to concoct an answer for a five-year-old son asking in agonizing pathos, “Daddy, why do white people treat colored people so mean?”; when you take a cross-country drive and find it necessary to sleep night after night in the uncomfortable corners of your automobile because no motel will accept you; when you are humiliated day in and day out by nagging signs reading “white” and “colored”; when your first name becomes “nigger” and your middle name becomes “boy” (however old you are) and your last name becomes “John,” and when your wife and mother are never given the respected title “Mrs.”; when you are harried by day and haunted by night by the fact that you are a Negro, living constantly at tiptoe stance, never knowing what to expect next, and plagued with inner fears and outer resentments; when you are forever fighting a degenerating sense of “nobodyness” — then you will understand why we find it difficult to wait. There comes a time when the cup of endurance runs over and men are no longer willing to be plunged into an abyss of injustice where they experience the bleakness of corroding despair. I hope, sirs, you can understand our legitimate and unavoidable impatience.”
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What do we want? Justice. Equality. Life. Liberty. The Pursuit of Happiness.
The sun was a gigantic circle of intense bright light as I walked on Old Plantersville Road tonight and the colors in the sky surrounding it took my breath away. They were all that – and then some. No camera this evening. Just me and the Texas sunset. It’s as close as I came to a spiritual moment and not surprising that the words of a hymn I sang over and over again during my Southern Baptist days played in my head while I walked.
Now the day is over, night is drawing nigh.
Shadows of the evening steal across the sky.
Jesus, give the weary calm and sweet repose;
With thy tenderest blessing may mine eyelids close.
—-Sabine Baring-Gould, published 1865
A few raindrops fell on me as I turned toward home from the railroad track which was my usual turnaround spot. I didn’t even care. The colors changed quickly in the sky as the sun went down behind the trees across the pasture. I slowed my pace to catch as many of them as I could, and the rain stopped for me so I wouldn’t have to hurry.
The day was over, and shadows of the evening stole across the sky right in front of me. Jesus, give the weary calm and sweet repose. My Random House Dictionary defined repose as, among other things, a dignified calmness…composure. Yes, give the weary a sweet repose. Let all who work hard and all who are tired of fighting the same battles or any whose pain leaves them exhausted – give them a sweet repose at the end of this day.
And may our eyelids close.
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In September, 2013, when I first published this piece, I called myself a “bi-stateual” because Pretty and I had bought a place in Texas on Worsham Street which was a block off Old Plantersville Road, a favorite walking place for me when I liked to ponder the vicissitudes of life, as my daddy used to say.
Today, thirteen years later, I was reminded of a truth I think my daddy would have liked:
We are all just walking each other home.
Some of us just have four legs, and a little less time to do it.
(Pawprints of my heart)
When the noises of the universe trample the joys within us, let’s remember we are all just walking each other home. What can we do to make the journey joyful for ourselves and for someone else today?
Ollie, me, Red, Pretty, Chelsea, Drew, Annie in 2009
Ollie, Red, Chelsea and Annie walked each other home ahead of us
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