Category: The Way Life Should Be

  • Ella’s baby sister is here!

    Ella’s baby sister is here!


    Ella holds Molly while Pretty and I swoon over them

    Molly Iris James was born Wednesday, January 26th., at 1:42 p.m. She weighed 7 lbs. 4 oz. and is 20.4 inches long. Ella loves her “Lolly.” Pretty and I love them both.

    Before Ella was born 2 years ago, my doctor told me having a grandchild would add 10 years to my life so last week when I was in his office I asked him what would 2 granddaughters do? He looked at me and asked how old are you now? When I said 75, he said without blinking, “15.” I’m good with that.

    Whether 10 or 15 years, 10 or 15 months – I’m thankful for experiencing the joy of our family with Pretty. Unbelievable joy, indescribable happiness we can share together. It’s been good for the soul – a gift from the Great Spirit.

    Today while Molly napped, Ella pretended to be me. Hilarious.

    What did you do today, Naynay?

    I watched tennis on tv

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    Stay safe, stay sane, please get vaccinated and boosted, and stay tuned.

  • Alize Cornet, the frenchwoman who (finally) connected!

    Alize Cornet, the frenchwoman who (finally) connected!


    Thirty-two year old Alize Cornet of Nice, France upset former world #1 tennis player Simona Halep in the 4th. round of the 2022 Australian Open tennis tournament in Melbourne to move her into the second week of a grand slam tournament, any grand slam tournament, for the first time in her life. She had played in 62 consecutive main draws in grand slam events but never made it past the 4th. round.

    In sweltering 90+ degree heat against one of the most formidable opponents in women’s tennis today, Cornet defied herself and the oddsmakers by defeating Halep in a best two of three sets match. She was overcome by tears of joy, perhaps a generous helping of disbelief, and said in her interview following the match, “It’s never too late to try again.”

    For Cornet, regardless of her results in the quarterfinals this year, the number 63 will always be her magic number.

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    Alize Cornet (Wikipedia image)

    Should you be able to answer a quiz on who the following eight women in alphabetical order are: Ashleigh Barty, Danielle Collins, Alize Cornet, Kaia Kanepi, Madison Keys, Barbora Krejcikova, Jessica Pegula, Iga Swiatek. Only if you’re following the women’s singles matches in the 2022 Australian Open because these women are not household names; yet they survived the challenges of competing against the heat, their opponents and themselves to reach the quarterfinals in week #2 of the first grand slam event of the year. They are the best of the best down under in 2022. And I dare you to pronounce their names out loud.

    Twenty-seven year old Ash Barty is no surprise to make it to the Elite Eight of the tournament since she is currently ranked #1 in the world by the Women’s Tennis Association, a place she has held since September, 2019. She won the French Open in 2019 and Wimbledon last year – but has yet to capture the trophy in her home country of Australia. However, this future Hall of Famer is the odds-on favorite to hold the trophy in 2022.

    Both Polish tennis player Iga Swiatek and Czech player Barbora Krejickova have won the singles titles at the French Open, too. Swiatek won at Roland Garros in 2020 while Krejickova won the French last year in both singles and doubles. Twenty year old Swiatek is the youngest of the select group, currently ranked #8 in the world by the WTA, and is seeded #7 in this year’s Australian Open. Krejickova, twenty-six years of age and born in the Czech Republic is currently ranked #5 in singles in the world, seeded #4 at the AO so Swiatek and Krejickova, like Ash Barty, are not surprises in the quarterfinals this year.

    The oldest women’s singles player in the quarterfinals of the AO, thirty-six year old Kaia Kanepi was born in Estonia, is currently ranked #63 in singles by the WTA, and was unseeded in this year’s AO. She’s reached the quarterfinals of the French, Wimbledon and the US Open before but this is her first time to make the second week in Melbourne. She’s a bona fide surprise.

    Finally, there are three American women who are in the quarterfinals of the AO in 2022, and the big surprise to me about all of them is that none of their last names is Williams. For as long as I have been watching tennis, and that’s probably more years than most of my friends in cyberspace have been on the earth, the names Venus and Serena have defined the American tennis landscape. Venus won the AO two times – Serena has seven trophies from Melbourne. But these amazing women didn’t make the trip this year.

    With gratitude and appreciation for the legacy of the Williams sisters, three American women represent in the second week quarterfinals of a grand slam tennis event in Melbourne. Remember the names of twenty-eight year old Danielle Collins who played varsity tennis at the University of Virginia and was a semi-finalist at the Australian Open in 2019 but is seeded #27 in this year’s grand slam; twenty-seven year old Madison Keys was a semi-finalist at the AO in 2015 but is unseeded at this tournament since her WTA ranking slipped to #51; and nearly twenty-eight year old (b. 02-24-94) Jessica Pegula who made the quarterfinals of the AO last year, too, but was eliminated by another American player Jen Brady, who lost to Naomi Osaka in the final. Brady was unable to participate this year due to a foot injury.

    I love to watch tennis matches on all surfaces during the season – the clay courts are my favorites, and I think I heard a random comment on the Tennis Channel those tournaments will begin next week as the Australian Open closes. I have to say I hope the vaccination drama is over and that everyone learned a valuable lesson from it. In sports the name is the game. When I watched the remarkable tennis played by the eight women who are now in the quarterfinals, I almost forgot the hullabaloo that preceded their stellar performances.

    I’m not an oddsmaker, but I wouldn’t bet against any of the women in the quarterfinals. I do predict outstanding tennis from them. May the best woman win.

    Alize Cornet has already won.

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    Stay safe, stay sane, get vaccinated, get boosted and please stay tuned.

  • wintry mix, or snow as we call it in South Carolina

    wintry mix, or snow as we call it in South Carolina


    So you think you know snow? Ha. We are rolling in it in the sunny South.

    only one dog outside with me this morning

    Schools closed yesterday, the day before the snow. Many businesses including our favorite Mexican restaurants closed, but Pretty’s antiques empire remained open to the few brave souls up for a winter adventure in Little Mountain, South Carolina. Grocery store shelves were emptied of necessities like bread and caffeine free diet coke. Everything was in short supply when I ordered my groceries from the store to be delivered by Instacart yesterday so limit 1 per customer of everything including Nestle’s Crunch Bar. Nestle’s Crunch Bar? Seriously? Pretty will be most unhappy.

    Worst news: Jersey Mike’s sign on the door yesterday that said Out of Bread. Jersey’s is our latest food obsession because I can count exact calories on every sub sandwich and Pretty has discovered their veggie culinary delight with Portabella mushrooms. (Convicted Subway Spokesperson Jared was my inspiration for the benefits of healthy eating habits, but of course I switched to Jersey Mike’s to totally dissociate my plan from his plus they have better bread.)

    Best news: Rush’s didn’t close. They did not run out of tea or french fries that are not part of my healthy eating program – but my one weakness. Sigh. I bet you can’t eat just one.

    Ok, so my friend Paula in Minnesota had outdoor temperatures this morning of 8 degrees that supposedly felt like minus 1 degree while I walked for five minutes in the yard to take pictures for Pretty who would have missed the whole snow thing otherwise since her favorite winter activity is to sleep through the month of January with hopes spring will be here when she gets up to greet Groundhog Day. Pretty prefers to hibernate.

    My friend Ann in Pennsylvania can expect a high of 28 degrees today, but it will feel like 18 degrees to her and her horses. My friend Susanne in Canada showed a picture of walking her dog this week when the temperature was -16 degrees. That’s 16 degrees below zero if I understand higher math. These northern friends measure their snowfall in feet – not the puny 2 inches of white flakes we had last night.

    I’m mostly embarrassed to put my “snow” pictures in cyberspace.

    no need to water front yard today

    Pride Flag undisturbed

    Pretty’s favorite of my snow pictures today

    Carport Kitty and Pretty have similar feelings about winter. Thankfully her heated pad keeps her toasty warm in the laundry room – Carport Kitty, not Pretty. Heh, heh.

    Carport Kitty reigns

    The sun also rises, the snowflakes melt, and Pretty will leave me to work in her antique empire while I watch the disgraceful television coverage of the 2022 Australian Open this afternoon. Bollocks.

    Stay safe, stay sane, get vaccinated for your own sake, get boosted as soon as possible and please stay tuned.

  • MLK Day in 2022

    MLK Day in 2022


    “I think the tragedy is that we have a Congress with a Senate that has a minority of misguided senators who will use the filibuster to keep the majority of people from even voting. They won’t let the majority senators vote. And certainly they wouldn’t want the majority of people to vote, because they know they do not represent the majority of the American people. In fact, they represent, in their own states, a very small minority.”

    Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke these words in July, 1963 in response to a question from a journalist about a Civil Rights bill being discussed by Congress that would end segregation, a bill first proposed by President John F. Kennedy that became law in 1964 following his death, a law that represented a revolution in prohibiting discrimination based on race, color, religion, sex and national origin in employment.

    Dr. King understood the dangers of a political procedure which threatened the will of the people in a democracy – particularly in an attempt to suppress voting. Dr. King’s remarks hit home to me almost six decades later. The more things change, the more they stay the same, according to the French writer Jean-Baptiste Alphonse Karr in 1849.

    In May, 2018 Pretty and I met our Texas sisters Leora and Carmen in Louisiana to spend a few days on Pretty’s guided tour of the Civil Rights Movement in Alabama. In addition to great barbecue and fun times playing cards at night, we went to the Dexter Avenue King Memorial Baptist Church in Montgomery.

    We squeezed in under the wire for the last tour of the day for the church following our visit to The Legacy Museum that morning. The church was rich in history but was usually identified by its connection to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. who was its pastor from 1954 – 1960. The meeting to launch the Montgomery Bus Boycott was held in the basement of the church on December 2, 1956.

    What an incredible experience we all had with our tour guide Wanda – her joy in sharing the history of the church was infectious…her storytelling made the history come alive. She provided opportunities for our personal interactions within the sacred surroundings. One moment from the church basement tour stood out to me as I settled into my thoughts on a riverboat ride later in the afternoon.

    The original lectern Dr. King used in his meetings was still standing in the basement of the church. Wanda allowed each of our small group of six (another married couple from Kansas had joined us) to stand behind that lectern and repeat his words: “How long? Not long.” I put both my hands on the lectern as I repeated the short phrases, how long? not long. I felt a crack in the veil of shame for an entire race that I had worn since The Legacy Museum visit earlier that day. If Dr. King could say “not long,” then surely time was meaningless; redemption was still possible for all who repented. How long? Not long.

    I wanted to add “too long.”

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    “Well, I don’t know what will happen now.  We’ve got some difficult days ahead.  But it doesn’t matter with me now.  Because I’ve been to the mountaintop.  And I don’t mind.  Like any man I would like to live a long life.  Longevity has its place. But I’m not concerned about that now…God’s allowed me to go up to the mountain.  And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the promised land.  I may not get there with you.  But I want you to know today that we, as a people, will get to the promised land.  And I’m happy, today,  I’m not worried about anything.  I’m not fearing any man...”

    These famous words were delivered in a speech by Dr. King at the Mason Temple in Memphis, Tennessee on April 03, 1968, the day before his assassination.

    The Covid pandemic has changed all our lives in the past two years. The political unrest is crazy unnerving, but our struggles are small in comparison to those of a young African American minister in the 1960s who refused to surrender to fear in the face of threats on his life over and over again until one became a reality.

    Here’s my last quote. I promise. But if you haven’t listened to any of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s speeches, I urge you to celebrate his birthday in 2022 by going to the magical YouTube videos of his recordings to pick your own favorite quotes. I think you’ll be glad you did.

    Meanwhile stay safer, stay saner, get vaccinated and boosted, and please stay tuned.

    poster for 1993 March on Washington

    “Our freedom was not won a century ago, it is not won today, but some small part of it is in our hands, and we are marching no longer by ones and twos but in legions of thousands, convinced now it cannot be denied by human hands.”

    Hear ye, hear ye, Senators Manchin and Sinema. To borrow a line from Wanda Sykes, Dr. King is talking about you, fools.

  • how is Bully Cat like Novax Djokovic?

    how is Bully Cat like Novax Djokovic?


    I wonder…hm…what similarities do they have…

    Number 1: Both BC and Novax disrespect their peers.

    Number 2: Both refuse to go home when politely asked to leave.

    Number 3: Both Novax and BC will share a tarnished legacy for their selfishness.

    Bully Cat looks longingly at Carport Kitty’s carport…

    like Novax gazes past guards at Australian border

    Bully Cat patrols carport border looking for legal representation

    No one wants to take my case!

    Meanwhile, Carport Kitty could be seen yesterday eating three square meals at the bottom of our kitchen steps in the carport. She had been looking thin and “poorly” for the past several days so we were happy to see her appetite return.

    keep the food coming, sisters

    Bully Cat was seen hustling to his own home – the judge and jury of Pretty and me sent him packing. Novax’s visa was revoked a second time by the Australian Immigration Minister this morning; he will be returned to immigration detention this afternoon but will appeal to the judicial system to restore the visa in time for him to participate in what was once his favorite Grand Slam. I’m thinking he’s lost the good will of Australian tennis fans in 2022 – he should go home to Serbia to practice for the clay season.

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    Stay safer, stay saner, please get vaccinated and please stay tuned.