Category: Humor

  • my Aunt Armeda’s custard recipe

    my Aunt Armeda’s custard recipe


    Several weeks ago this tiny scrap of paper arrived with a note from a University of Texas friend who now lives in Cody, Wyoming. The note simply said this is Armeda’s custard recipe, but it’s in your mother’s handwriting. No explanation necessary – I would recognize my mother’s scratchy writing anywhere. Her DNA flows through my penmanship as surely as it does through my love of dogs.

    When I worked for a year in Houston following my graduation from UT in Austin, the good news was I had relatives from both sides of my family who lived in the metropolitan area; the bad news was I had relatives from both sides of my family who lived within spitting distance of my one bedroom furnished apartment on Shadyvilla Lane. Houston in 1967 was a big city, but not nearly as crowded as it became in the years that followed, so I easily navigated the paths from learning to play bridge at my Aunt Mavis and Uncle Ray’s house on Jalna Street in the northwest section of the city to playing poker or dominoes at my Aunt Dessie and Uncle Floyd’s house on Rodrigo Street in the Heights. Talk about home cooked food. Every home I visited made sure I had plenty of it.

    I had a favorite place to visit on Sunday afternoons in the cooler months (yes, there were several cooler ones even in hot humid Houston): my Aunt Armeda and Uncle Vernon’s house which was less than 15 minutes from my apartment. I confess I tried to time my social call around the middle of the afternoon to see if by chance Aunt Armeda was making custard. If she was, I stayed longer. Shameless.

    Armeda was my Aunt Mavis’s half-sister who had married my paternal grandmother’s youngest brother. Remember my Aunt Mavis was married to my daddy’s brother Ray. No computerized social networking or dating apps in those days which meant somebody introduced somebody to someone else. Often that someone else was somehow related to the first somebody.

    My friend who now lives in Wyoming was still at UT when I worked in Houston, and she often came to see me on weekends – she loved our “custard calls” at Armeda and Vernon’s house as much as I did. I’m sure we raved about the drink to my mother who was aghast at the thought anyone could prefer Armeda’s custard over hers, but could we get that recipe anyway?

    I was amazed to see this little scrap of paper with such evidence of use in the past fifty-five years had traveled from Texas to Wyoming to South Carolina and was transported to the sights, sounds, smells of the custard being poured into delicate china coffee cups by a tall regal woman with soft speech and a warm heart. I’ve made the recipe three times recently and still think it’s delicious – if you can read the scribbling, I suggest you give it a try during the holiday season.

    Pour with love.

  • storms passed over us last night, but the sun also rises

    storms passed over us last night, but the sun also rises


    As reliable as our big shaking dog Spike is to predict inclement weather, often with more accuracy than the professional weather people in the media, last night’s storms were much less than he dreaded. We still hunkered down with our battery powered lights as the winds howled, the rain pounded the leaves off the trees – but today brought sunlight to mitigate the old blue norther that dropped the temperatures to levels in line with December in South Carolina.

    Carl assesses the leaf situation in our back yard this morning

    Carl wondered if the new dog would be friendlier than Spike

    Charly thought this dog looked familiar from holidays long ago and far away

    sniff, sniff – nope, no problemo

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    Look at what came to us yesterday afternoon when our little granddaughters went with their cousin to talk to Santa – thanks so much to the mothers of these children for sharing the joy (?)!!

    Daughter-in-law Caroline (l.) holds our two year old granddaughter skeptic Molly for her first chat with Santa while Caroline’s twin sister Chloe (r.) holds our four year old granddaughter Ella who appears to be planning something to stir the pot while Santa holds one year old cousin Caleb who is chill, going with the flow.

    Molly unconvinced, Ella ready to jump ship, and Caleb still chill

    let’s get down to the business of what I want for Christmas, Santa

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    So many storms around the world this year during a season celebrated for peace, love and hope; I wanted to share these pictures as a reminder that the sun also rises in time to bring us another day to be thankful for all creatures great and small – the most magical gifts we’ll celebrate in any season.

    Slava Ukraini. For all the children everywhere.

  • Gamecock women went to Duke – and so did we

    Gamecock women went to Duke – and so did we


    thanks to Gamecock Jennifer for great seats behind our bench at Duke game

    Duke took early lead, but Gamecock women finished with 77-61 win

    Pretty and I have made the 3 1/2 hour road trip from Columbia, South Carolina to Durham, North Carolina three times in the past eight years to watch our Gamecock women’s basketball team play the Duke University Blue Devils. The trip this year was unique with a new traveler on board: 23 month old granddaughter Molly. While older sister Ella performed in The Nutcracker ballet in Columbia this weekend, Molly had a number of firsts with us starting with our first road trip together.

    Molly’s mom Caroline always has her hair and clothes fixed so cute

    another first for Molly was staying in a motel room with her Nana and Naynay

    (she found Naynay’s Crocs next to bed and took off like a herd of turtles)

    Pretty and Molly outside Cameron Indoor Stadium at Duke University on Game Day, Molly’s first basketball game

    Molly happiest when looking at pictures of Ella

    Our personal record with the Gamecock women is now 2-1 at Duke (yes, we were there for the loss in 2016), but while the first two games we saw at Cameron were exciting, this third game in Durham was a winner not only because we won a basketball game but also because we shared a memory maker experience with two North Carolina friends who are ardent Gamecock fans as well as our first attempt to indoctrinate a new little Gamecock fan who now shouts “Cocks” whenever the people around her shout “Game.” Sigh. If only we could have had a different mascot.

    Gamecock women’s basketball won at Duke – and so did we. Go Cocks!

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    Slava Ukraini. For all children everywhere.

  • a man of letters – season 2 – episode 2

    a man of letters – season 2 – episode 2


    My dad’s mother, Betha Day Robinson Morris, was born October 23, 1903. In October of 1964 my thirty-nine-year-old father wrote a birthday letter to his mother who lived in Richards, Texas (eighty miles north of where he lived in Richmond, Texas). I call this one of my daddy’s deep in the heart moments – I can picture my grandmother’s tears when she read this from her youngest of three grown children. She was the one who treasured the words he wrote; I found this letter after her death in 1983.

    My personal favorite line in this letter is “You know when you have people who believe in you, you hate to let them down.”

    Daddy and Mama were thrilled about getting their first home together in 1964. They had eloped in 1945 when he returned from England at the end of WWII; I was born in 1946 ten months later. We lived in Richards with my maternal grandmother in her home that was less than a minute walk from my dad’s parents until I was thirteen years old. When my parents and I moved away from Richards, we lived in rental houses in Brazoria, Texas for five years. They moved to another rental house in Richmond when I left for college; Daddy and Mama got jobs in the school district there.

    The American dream was alive and well in the fall of 1964.

    Daddy and my grandmother at the back steps of her home circa 1943

    Does anyone have a favorite line in the letter?

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    Slava Ukraini. For the children.

  • a man of letters – season 2 – episode 1

    a man of letters – season 2 – episode 1


    My father’s letters continued after his marriage to my mother, and later he wrote to me when I was in college in the 1960s. I look forward to another series on those entertaining letters, but for now I will leave my family as they were at the end of World War II. (July 01, 2018 – season 1 – episode 11)

    In June, 2018 I published a series of letters in this blog that my father wrote to my mother who was the hometown girl he left behind as well as letters to other family members during WWII. I did plan to do another series that summer five years ago on letters he wrote to me when I was in college at the University of Texas in Austin from 1964 – 1967 but found I suffered from burnout, emotional exhaustion, or the devil made me give up. My dad was my best friend from the time I was born in 1946 until his death from colon cancer in 1976 at fifty-one years of age. He had beautiful handwriting I didn’t inherit and a beautiful mind, too. Here’s a sample of both.

    My daddy always loved poetry and music so when he gave me these words at Christmas my senior year in high school, I wasn’t surprised. I don’t remember if he mentioned they were part of the lyrics from a song called A Letter from Santa written by Mickey Maguire (more remembered for Christmas classic I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus). I do remember I laughed out loud. I probably also couldn’t believe my dad had actually written the word “ass” in something he gave me – my parents refused to use what they considered to be vulgar language; I’m sure “ass” was a hard no. Maybe this rite of passage made it funnier to me. Regardless, I’ll start the new series on a seasonal note.

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    Slava Ukraini. For the children everywhere.