Category: Reflections

  • Garage Sale Social Commentary


    Our neighborhood association sponsored a garage sale over the weekend, i.e., individual homes were invited to have their own sales and the association would supply a yard sign and advertising on Craig’s List and in the local newspaper on Friday and Saturday. The weather cooperated with sunshine and mild temperatures in the 70s – 80s range so a large turnout was expected. We weren’t disappointed. The traffic was steady from 8 a.m. until we shut it down 2-ish in the afternoon.

    Teresa and I are old hands at garage sales in our fourteen years together since we downsize twice a year as regularly as time falls back and springs forward. She now has a booth in an antique mall in Prosperity, South Carolina so we can sell our “better” items there and the “lesser” items are doomed to the garage sales. Sort of like separating the wheat from the chaff. She and her friend Shelley find all these activities highly entertaining and are just as apt to shop at garage sales as we are to have one which is why our inventory  remains fairly constant.

    My role in this process is the same every time we have them: I am the money changer.  I take in the dollar bills, coins and checks and am responsible for making sure our paying customers are satisfied and happy with their treasures. I am not allowed to negotiate lower prices under any circumstances – my job is to refer those seeking better deals to either Shelley or Teresa. Occasionally I break this rule, but nobody’s perfect.

    The garage sales at our house on the corner of Canterbury Road and Manning Avenue attract a diverse group of people. We are at an intersection of two downtown neighborhoods…Forest Hills on Canterbury and the Lyon Street Community on Manning. The demographics of the two neighborhoods are widely divergent in terms of socioeconomic conditions and racial composition, but our garage sale typically is a wonderful melting pot of folks looking for fun and bargains. Saturday’s crowd was no exception.

    In the midst of the minglers, a young tall African-American teenager with an Afro and a prominent gold tooth approached Teresa and asked her about a small older model laptop computer we had for sale. He wanted to know if it worked and she said it had belonged to her son who probably bought a newer model at some point and never threw this one away but she couldn’t guarantee it worked. He seemed to be willing to take a chance on it and bought it for $3.

    When he brought me the three one-dollar bills, he smiled a really sweet smile and asked me if I could please wrap the laptop in something and give him a bag to put it in. He said he didn’t want the police to see him walking down our street with the little laptop because he was afraid they might think it was stolen and shoot him.

    I was speechless but said something inane like I was so sorry and of course I could wrap it in newspaper and put it in a grocery bag – which I did. He took the bag, thanked me and I thanked him for stopping by. The whole conversation took less than a minute, but Teresa overheard it and we talked about it last night.

    We had no answers for the complex issues the young man innocently raised yesterday with his purchase in the driveway of our home. Teresa and I have ongoing philosophical discussions on social justice matters in our nation and in our neighborhood and are aware of the growing disparity between wealth and poverty in our country. Just for a moment, though, our consciousness was raised from the philosophical to the personal; and our garage sale was more valuable than we had bargained for.

     

     

  • Immortalized – at Last! And Just in the Nick of Time!


    Followers who have been with me for many moons may vaguely remember my blog in the archives dated September 10, 2013 regarding my desire to write something quotable. Feel free to refresh your memories or make new ones by checking it out.

    Cue Jeopardy music.

    Today I opened a birthday package that came two weeks ago with the command Do Not Open Until April 21st. It was from my good friend Mary Hettel in Ohio and contained a treasure trove of goodies including a hilarious birthday card, one Mounds candy bar, a tiny tin of Texas Lone Star mints and this refrigerator magnet:

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    I laughed out loud (or LOL for my younger readers) and truly haven’t stopped smiling since. Leave it to Mary H to be very clever – another year she sent me the Solar Hula Girl a/k/a danseuse hawaienne solaire who sways with reckless abandon on my desk if I write on a sunny day.

    Today is a sunny day and I plan to commemorate my 69th birthday with a walk in the woods with my dogs and a delicious Mexican restaurant dinner tonight with Teresa.

    I am happy to be able to do both, and I am grateful to my cyberspace followers for spending time with this Super Senior (as in older than dirt) citizen. You’re the best.

  • I’m All A-Twitter


    I Tweet, therefore I am.

    Cotweeto ergo sum is my just made-up version of the seventeenth century French philosopher Rene Descartes’s cogito ergo sum loosely translated: I think, therefore I am.

    What would Descartes or other philosophers of his era think about social media and blogging, I wondered.  It might go something like this.

    I must Tweet so that you can Follow Me and I will Follow You and Re-Tweet your Tweets which are my Favorites and to which I shall Reply by sending you a Message which you may choose to Tweet or Not to Tweet because that is truly the question.

    I rarely Tweeted for years, and never in front of anyone. (Sorry. I couldn’t resist.) I had many excuses…I was too old to Tweet, I had no time to learn to Tweet, I had no one to Tweet to…but mainly I didn’t Tweet because I had Facebook. Surely that was sufficient for my foray into social media. It took me a LONG time to learn how to navigate the murky Facebook waters and I was afraid I might expire before I mastered Tweeting.

    Plus Tweeting apparently was limited to 120 characters per communique. Are you kidding me? I could zip through 120 characters in saying hello to someone – never mind writing anything else and what kind of letter begins and ends with hello anyway. Nope, Tweeting wasn’t for me.

    I never would have joined the ranks of the Tweeters if it had not been for my lone Twittering Florida friends Skye and her dog Sonny. They Favorited and Re-Tweeted all three of my blogs faithfully for more than a year and I faithfully Tweeted to them – but only to them. Last month that changed. I’m not sure why or how, but I began Tweeting to their suggested friends and became a full-fledged Twitterer. I give Skye & Sonny credit and thanks.

    I now have over 300 Twitter followers on all three of my blogs which may not seem like many to Ellen or Steve Spurrier, but it’s amazing to me.  I’m not sure if any of them actually read my posts, but I like to think they at least give them a cursory glance and I know I am happy to have them on board.

    And who can say? Perhaps Rene Descartes would have welcomed the opportunity to Tweet.

     

     

     

     

  • Mothers and Other Creatures: a bioStories Anthology


    I am pleased to tell you that one of my posts on this blog from several years ago, The Photo Finish, has been included in a new collection of diverse stories about the complex relationships we all have with our mothers.

     

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    Mothers and Other Creatures: a bioStories Anthology

    I just got my copies today and encourage you to treat yourself to a good book – click the bioStories link on my Blogroll to order or available on Amazon, too, in both e-book and paperback formats.

    March was the birthday month for my two mothers, Selma and Willie, and this story is my gift to honor their memories.

  • I Was the World in Which I Walked


    My name is Sheila, and I’m a word-a-holic. I collect them, I store them, I love them. Occasionally I take them out of my hiding places and admire them again. Teresa does the same thing with words – but hers are published in books she takes from a shelf – books that have beautiful covers and words that are strung together in page after delicious page.

    This past week I found a prized addition to my collection – a totally random sighting while I was waiting for T in the lobby of an office building. This jewel was engraved in very small letters on a large plaque as a kind of afterthought following the brief biography of an influential man of medicine.

    I was the world in which I walked. – Wallace Stevens

    I stared at the words…mulled over the words…and was knocked in the head with a bolt of fresh truth and knowledge.

    I was the world in which I walked.

    Uh oh, my little Voice of Reason whispered to me. You ought to be a bit more cautious in your complaints and cynicism and yes,  especially your downright negativity about “the world” being this or that because it turns out YOU are your world so that must mean the problems start with YOU.

    Well, that was so frightening I decided to find out who Wallace Stevens was to make such an audacious statement of truth. I turned to my trusted friend Wikipedia and got an eyeful. His tagline was Poet, Insurance Executive. He was an American Modernist poet born in Pennsylvania in 1879 to affluent parents. He went to Harvard and the New York School of Law but spent most of his life working for the Hartford  insurance company in Connecticut where he was a vice-president until his death in 1955.

    He started writing poetry later in life with his critically acclaimed works published after he turned 50. He won the National Book Award for Poetry twice: in 1951 and 1955. And he won a Pulitzer Prize for Poetry in 1955. Gosh, his world in which he walked must have been a bed of roses.

    Not so fast, my friend. Wally’s World was quite messy. The woman he married in 1909 had been a saleswoman, a milliner and a stenographer; his family opted to boycott the wedding because she wasn’t quite up to snuff, as we say in Texas. Wallace never spoke to his parents again during his father’s lifetime.

    From 1922 – 1940 Mr. Stevens spent a great deal of time in Key West, which became an inspiration for his poetry. That was the good news. The bad news was he didn’t play well with others and had unseemly arguments with Robert Frost whenever they were in Key West at the same time. As for his relationship with Ernest Hemingway in Key West, well apparently their disagreements turned to fisticuffs with Wallace having a broken hand and Hemingway a broken jaw in one of their notorious spats.

    So Wallace Stevens was, like most of us, a man who had been at least two worlds in which he walked… so I felt better about my negativity that, to date, has not caused me to come to physical blows with anyone but perhaps needs to be toned down a notch or two  with a more regular nod to the positives in which I walk.

    You are the world in which you walk. Chew on that for an extra minute tonight.

     

    P.S. One of the more memorable quotes Teresa said to me when we first met was, “I think insurance companies are the scum of the earth.” At the time, I was an insurance agent. We’ve come a long way, baby.