Happy Birthday, Finn!

 Sunday November 29th. is the tenth birthday of our good friend Finn who visits us frequently in the summers because he loves chess games on the porch, Texas hold ’em high stakes games, trivia with Alexa, racing cars on my iPad while we watch tennis on TV, our barking dogs, me, his Auntie T (also known here as Pretty) and our swimming pool. Probably in reverse order.



chess requires deep concentration

Pretty and I have known Finn since the day he was born – his parents Dave and Saskia were close friends for several years before his birth. In Pretty’s previous life as a realtor she helped them find their home when they moved to Columbia to teach at the University of South Carolina. 

Pretty holding one year old Finn

blowing bubbles at his fifth birthday party in 2015

Three months after this fun party, Pretty and I lost one of our most beloved dogs, Red, who was our rescued Welsh Terrier. Red was with us from the beginning of our life together in 2001 so the loss was beyond painful for us both. Several days after his death, five year old Finn sent this note.

His mother explained that when they told Finn about our loss, he made the card. 

“He drew Red and you crying, but he also added a few smiley faces ‘to cheer you up and to make you feel better.’ “

The card was a keeper, but much more than that. I can truthfully say Finn has cheered his Auntie T and me countless times over the years. We love him dearly and wish him a Happy Birthday on this day he adds another digit from 9 to 10!


Stay safe, stay sane and please stay tuned.









About Sheila Morris

Sheila Morris is a personal historian, essayist with humorist tendencies, lesbian activist, truth seeker and speaker in the tradition of other female Texas storytellers including her paternal grandmother. In December, 2017, the University of South Carolina Press published her collection of first-person accounts of a few of the people primarily responsible for the development of LGBTQ organizations in South Carolina. Southern Perspectives on the Queer Movement: Committed to Home will resonate with everyone interested in LGBTQ history in the South during the tumultuous times from the AIDS pandemic to marriage equality. She has published five nonfiction books including two memoirs, an essay compilation and two collections of her favorite blogs from I'll Call It Like I See It. Her first book, Deep in the Heart: A Memoir of Love and Longing received a Golden Crown Literary Society Award in 2008. Her writings have been included in various anthologies - most recently the 2017 Saints and Sinners Literary Magazine. Her latest book, Four Ticket Ride, was released in January, 2019. She is a displaced Texan living in South Carolina with her wife Teresa Williams and their dogs Spike, Charly and Carl. She is also Naynay to her two granddaughters Ella and Molly James who light up her life for real. Born in rural Grimes County, Texas in 1946 her Texas roots still run wide and deep.
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4 Responses to Happy Birthday, Finn!

  1. Nanine says:

    I love how families grow beyond the boundaries of blood. Happy Birthday handsome Finn!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. What a charming card about Red Man!

    Liked by 1 person

    • The Red Man was lucky to have his followers – young and old…and a few in between. 🙂
      Thank you, Annie. Your travelers have been amazing – I can only comment for some reason – it always says “like” is loading, but it never does…
      Needless to say, I “like” all of your posts!


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