Category: Reflections

  • The Good, the Bad and the Ugly


    The Good:

    This past Thursday evening a small group of LGBT activists met at a local restaurant in Columbia, South Carolina to celebrate with Jim Obergefell, one of the plaintiffs in the  recent historical SCOTUS decision to legalize same-sex marriage in all fifty states in the USA. We were a jubilant group – full of laughter, chatting happily, enjoying the fruits of many years of hard labors, toasting with champagne given to us by the delightful wait staff who wanted to recognize our group for our “contributions to the state of South Carolina.” An amazing evening. Unimaginable in 1984 when our organization of the movement began in earnest in the state.

    The Bad:

    On that same Thursday last week on a different continent a world away six people were stabbed as they marched in the Jerusalem annual gay pride parade – stabbed by an ultra-Orthodox Jewish man who had just been released from serving ten years in prison for stabbing a gay man in another march  those years before. Two of the people were taken to the hospital, and yesterday Shira Banki, a sixteen-year-old activist, died. An amazing event – unfortunately,  still not unimaginable in any country today – but a tragic loss for the entire LGBT community which shares the sorrow of her family and friends in Israel.

    More Good:

    Jim Obergefell and local activist Nekki Shutt served as co-Grand Marshalls of the Charleston Pride Parade two days later on a rainy Saturday in the low-country capitol of the state- but the rain didn’t dampen the spirits of the  hundreds of marchers who had waited for the opportunity to step out for equality with pride. The music was loud, the floats were festive – and the entire atmosphere was electric with the possibilities ahead for the LGBT movement toward full equality.

    More Bad:

    That same weekend a Russian Military Holiday was observed in St. Petersburg, Russia. Several gay activists staged individual protests  during the festivities because of recent government anti-gay measures and were taunted by the Russian Airborne Services who tore up the protesters’ posters. Russian police intervened in the confrontation and took the activists away, although the law permits one-person protests. One of the paratroopers had this to say: “We’re in Russia and not in America. Let them do what they want in America, but not in Russia.”

    The Ugly:

    And finally, a report released  today by an independent project called Airwars alleges that U.S.-led airstrikes in Iraq and Syria in the past year targeting the Islamic State group may have killed more than 450 civilians. The U.S. denies these numbers but said there are four ongoing military investigations into allegations regarding the deaths of civilians during airstrikes.

    I understand why…no, I don’t. Not really. Life is so much better for me when I don’t read or listen to the news. Just let me drink my champagne in peace, but no…

    How can one man love another man so much that he will try to change the attitudes of an entire country so that their love will have the same status  in that country as  those who love members of the opposite sex? And then how can one man hate this same love so much that he will stab a teenage girl to death simply because she chose to get out of her bed one Thursday morning and look in the mirror and say, Today I will be myself. I will be who I really am, and I want the world to see me as I am.

    Life isn’t always filled with days that are good and bad or even ugly. Most of our days are just opportunities to go one way or the other – to choose to make a difference right where we are in this moment – or to let that chance slip away with a shrug of indifference. Jim  Obergefell chose a path that led him on a long journey to the highest court in the United States. Shira Banki’s choice led to a much shorter journey – but one that was no less important.   As for the civilians allegedly lost in Iraq and Syria, well, they had no choice.

    My investigation is ongoing, but the preliminary findings indicate good and bad are always in a tight race for our best selves and some of us win or lose depending on the day of the race. Blessed are those that win more days than they lose, for they shall drag the rest of us to the finish line and we will be grateful.

     

     

  • Reflections on a Flag


    Within the span of twenty-four days the people of the state of South Carolina have had an opportunity to witness victories over hatred and fear and unkindness with acts of love and forgiveness and good will. The importance of these victories will be measured in time in our lives by the way we treat each other as individuals and as the body politic is governed, but we have the right today to respectfully celebrate together even as a symbol of divisiveness returned to the ground from whence it sprung. Confederate flag lowered, flag pole removed, flag relocation accomplished.

    The flag flew at the State Capitol for fifty-four years amid controversy and contention and much political posturing between opposing political parties and factions within those parties. The decision to remove it came not without rancor and recrimination in and outside the State Capitol – but it did come comparatively quickly twenty-four days after the massacre at Mother Emanuel. On June 17, 2015 nine members of the Mother Emanuel A.M.E. Church in Charleston, South Carolina were shot and killed by a young gunman from Columbia after he had been welcomed by them to participate in their routine Wednesday evening Bible study. Apparently he stayed in the small meeting for an hour before opening fire and killing six women and three men. Only one woman survived.

    Four days after the massacre in their church, the following Sunday morning of June 21, 2015, Mother Emanuel once again opened its doors for the regular Sunday services. By this time, the alleged killer had been caught and the crime had been identified as a hate crime of horrific proportions and video images of the man began to surface – images of a young white male waving a Confederate flag spewing racial hatred against blacks. Television interviews with his friends claimed that he hoped his actions would begin a racial war in South Carolina.

    The murders attracted international attention and an article written by John Eligan and Richard Faussat appeared in the New York Times on that Sunday, June 21st. in which they described other worship services a block away from Mother Emanuel that were taking place in a small white tent as crowds gathered to mourn the nine people killed. All the church bells in Charleston had pealed for nine minutes at 10 a.m. and various pastors in the white tent spoke following the tolling of the bells.

    Jermain Watkins, a black teaching pastor at Journey Church in Charleston, was quoted in the Times article as follows: “To hatred we say no way, not today. To racism, we say no way, not today. To division we say no way, not today. To reconciliation we say yes. To loss of hope, we say no way, not today. To a racial war, we say no way, not today. To racial fear, we say no way, not today. Charleston, together, we say no way, not today.”

    Across the country in the First Corinthian Baptist Church in Harlem, the Times article went on to quote the Reverend Michael A. Walrond, Jr. as saying “Racism, bigotry, prejudice and hatred are elements woven into the fabric of this country. There can be no healing in this land if we are not honest about who we are.”

    Being honest about who we are is easier said than done. Often, we find ourselves struggling to be honest about who we love  – not to mention who we hate. And if we have these individual struggles in our personal lives as we look in our own reflections in the mirror, how much more difficult is it to be honest about who we are as a collection of citizens who grow up with our segregating filters of race, gender, sexual orientation, income levels, degrees of health, rural versus urban with suburban in-between, political affiliations and more. We are a nation divided on many levels with distrust and fear and prejudice against those who are different from us.

    But the examples of the families and friends of the Emanuel Nine and the citizens of Charleston under the leadership of Mayor Riley with the support of local, state and federal law enforcement officials have been glimmers of hope in a land which too often appears to be hopelessly mired in hatred and fear. Removing the Confederate flag was a symbolic reaction by an entire state that said, we must be honest with ourselves about the hatred and evil that exist within our boundaries. We must resolve with the families of the Emanuel Nine to say yes to reconciliation, to say yes to forgiveness, to say yes to hope and to begin again to build bridges of kindness and concern for each other. As this flag is lowered, our collective spirits are raised.

     

     

  • Extenuating Circumstances


    Rules are made to be broken – or, at least, bended a little bit. A new category called Creativity has been added to the 2015 Second Annual Cyberspace Memorable Quotes Contest and because artistic creative people often lose track of time, the Judge of this year’s contest has extended the deadline by two days for this category.

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    Blue Ribbon – First Place

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    Red Ribbon – Second Place

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    White Ribbon – Third Place

    (colorful ribbons were awarded in the Creativity Category)

    All of these entries were submitted by the Wayside Artist whose work is awesome and worthy of a visit to her online gallery. Next year Ann promises to be on time. Plus, the Judge just likes her and her quotes, too. Kind of like the Teacher’s Pet concept. Extenuating circumstances in any contest.

    Teresa and I wish all of you a Happy 4th. of July weekend. Enjoy time with your family and friends. Be safe.

  • The Suspense is Making Me Crazy


    The long one-day wait is over, and the Judge has made her final selections; but this year’s entries were so extraordinary she decided to publish the Top Ten in both categories.

    Drum roll, please.

    Announcing the winners in the 2015 Second Annual Cyberspace Memorable Quotes Contest:

    “It’s not what you don’t know that will hurt you. It’s what you think you know that ain’t so.”     —– Satchel Paige  (submitted by Warren Wood)

    “Time is priceless, but it costs us everything.” —– GP Morris

    “You can stand tall without standing on someone. You can be a victor without having victims.” —– Harriet Woods (submitted by LeighAnne Thacker Cogdill)

    “The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” —– Mahatma Gandhi (submitted by Luanne Castle)

    “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right!” — Henry Ford (submitted by Bob Lamb)

    “The basic belief of Christianity is that nothing so needs changing as other people’s habits.” –—- Mark Twain (submitted by S.)

    “An ounce of pretension is worth a pound of manure.” —–Steel Magnolias (submitted by Lisa Martin)

    “Time flies like an arrow.” —– Charles Doughtie

    “A smart girl never beats off any man.” —– Mae West (submitted by Allen Bardin)

    “As anyone who has ever been around a cat for any length of time knows, cats have enormous patience with the limitations of the human kind.” —– Cleveland Amory (submitted by Luanne Castle)

    Congratulations to all of you for your recognition in this year’s Memorable Quotes Contest – I have enjoyed them immensely!

    And now for the winners in the New Category of Best Tombstones…drum roll again, please.

    “A tomb now suffices him for whom the world was not enough.” —– Alexander the Great (submitted by Bob Lamb)

    “Ashes to ashes. Dust to dust. Hate to leave you, but I think I must.” —- Ray Drew’s great-aunt (submitted by Ray Drew)

    “I told you I was sick!” —– submitted by Nita Jean and Joey Cruz

    “A dead-end sign is posted on the final road to recovery.” —-submitted by GP Morris

    “Glory be to God for dappled things.” —– Gerard Manley Hopkins (submitted by Luanne Castle)”

    Actually, the Tombstone Contest has been limited to the Top Five due to lack of submissions. It’s Year One so this contest may take a little time to get off the ground. Get it?

    Now for all of you naysayers who say well, I had better quotes than those, I’m afraid we have to say Case Closed for this year. Save those gems for next year…just like we have to say in all games…there’s always next year.

    Finally, there’s a quote that defies the categories and reflects the current political temperature of our state. It comes from my good friend Harriet Hancock:

    “While I was putting on my ice skates to go skating in my backyard, I was listening to the news about Governor Haley calling for the removal of the Confederate flag when all of a sudden, a pig flew past my window.”

    Thanks so much to everyone who participated – you’re the BEST!

  • OMG – I Forgot to Send in My Memorable Quote for the Contest


    Greetings, cyberspace followers: Some of my people have neglected to send in their quotes for the Second Annual Cyberspace Memorable Quotes contest!

    Deadline is today June 30th at midnight – whenever midnight is for you!!

    Remember to send to my secret email address: smortex@aol.com.

    Hurry, hurry, hurry…I am waiting for your quotes!!

    Second category added: Favorite Tombstone Sayings