“I knew I was a lesbian, and I also knew I wouldn’t disguise who I was,
because to do so would send the message to my son Drew
there was something wrong with it.
If I didn’t name it, if I didn’t share it,
if I didn’t acknowledge it, if I didn’t own it,
if I wasn’t proud of it,
he was going to believe there was something wrong with it.
That became my mantra.
If I never in my life denied I was a lesbian,
if I treated it as just a part of my life,
then he would be okay with it.”
Teresa Williams a/k/a Pretty (1980s)
Southern Perspectives on the Queer Movement: Committed to Home
Today on International Women’s Day, I celebrate one of the women I most admire for her courage in her journey toward living an authentic life not only for herself but also for her son in the days before Will and Grace and Ellen. With obstacles on every side, without the support of the family who had always been there for her, this warrior mother stood up, came out and never looked back.
What would I do without Pretty…her warrior spirit lives on every day. I’m glad she’s on my side, too.
Drew, Pretty and me